Hello all,
It is my first post
I want your thoughts on this:
Do you feel that because your parents may have supported you when you were younger, that you "owe" it to them to support them now?

(Pay the bills they run up etc, just because they did it for you when you were younger and unable to work)

Thanks.

You always owe your parents some kind of debt. Whether you feel like you love them or you feel like you hate them, they made you. Without them you would be nothing. They were there for you when you were young in helpless, so just return the favor.
I like my parents and get along with them. Sometimes there is some tension, but the majority of the time it's all good. You always owe your parents

I helped my parents out by giving them all my savings a while back when we were in a spot of trouble..
I also pay housekeep and pay all my own bills etc, i guess thats paying my prents back for everything.

I think the word "obligated" is key, here. If your parents have earned your love and respect, you'd support them whatever, it wouldn't be an obligation.

^^^ mans got a point. once im out of education and into full time work i'll pay my parents rent etc. at the moment i just cant afford it. from getting you to 0-18 years old costs parents thousands and thousands of pounds, lots of time, lots of stress etc. least ya cn do it return the effort

Your parents always have an obligation to support you, because they brought you into the world, but if they haven't supported you well then you shouldn't feel obliged to sort there mess out.
"Be nice to your children, for they choose your Old People's Home."

I see no problem in paying your way after you reach a certain age or earn a certain amount. If anything it will give you an indication as to how things will be when you move out and get your own place. you wont have everything paid for you then, you will have to do it yourself. I love my parents and i quite gladly give them money to pay my way. It goes to either the bills, the upkeep of the house, shopping or whatever. I honestly dont mind it. I tend to give them more than they ask for mainly because i dont need the extra money and it makes things run a little smoother each month.
and i wouldnt so much say it was supporting them. I would think of it more as... plumping up the houses income. you drained it when you were a kid, you might as well help bulk it up a bit now.

i would have to say yes, and speaking from experience (my grandparents just moved into the family house) it can be rough adjusting to having an entire family under one roof, but it's hard for everyone to adjust, and you do owe your family for what they did for you as a child, although i would say that there is only so much you are obligated to do...

If your parents treaet you like shit, respond in kind.
Respect is not a one way street.
If you're cared for, you shouldn't feel obligated to help them, it should happen naturally out of your own free will.

If it were a law for kids to move out of their parent's houses by the time they turned 18 unless they're working, sure enough parents would follow that law. What kids fail to realize is that as soon as you're 18, you are, by law, an adult. You should at least step up to the plate to help out with the bills, rent, and so forth.

QUOTE(Jaysin)If your parents treaet you like shit, respond in kind.
Respect is not a one way street.
If you're cared for, you shouldn't feel obligated to help them, it should happen naturally out of your own free will.
Word.